Category Archives: Sex

Orientation: Sexual and Otherwise

Today we often hear heartrending stories from people struggling with their sexual orientation and often Christians have responded poorly. There are some attitudes, perceptions, and orientations which can’t be simply switched off, but Christians too often want to just tell … Continue reading

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Women’s Liberation Is Causing Female Unhappiness

A major study has concluded that women have become increasingly unhappy.1 By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well-being indicate that … Continue reading

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Lusting After God and His Kingdom

The trouble with lust isn’t that we lust. As I’ve said before, we were born to lust.1 You see, God created humans as beings with strong desires. God could have created humans with weak desires but then we wouldn’t care … Continue reading

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Sexual Sin and Accountability

Scott commented on my last blog that he had just confessed looking at porn to his wife and that she forgave him and is going to help him! Praise God for that! I did the same thing over 30 years … Continue reading

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So You’ve Sinned Again… and Again

So you’ve committed a sexual sin, again. And sinned again. And again. For the one-millionth time. Again. Of course you stopped counting long ago (okay, let’s be honest, no one counts—and how big is a googolplex really?) and you’re disgusted … Continue reading

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Another Reason We Lust: We Seek Self-Worth

Another thing that fuels lust is our basing our self-worth on worldly standards. If we are not going to find value in our relationship to God, then we will base it on what the world values. What does the world … Continue reading

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One Reason We Lust: We Need Meaning

Before I give the next step for controlling lust, it is helpful to understand the kinds of things that make us lust. And I’m not just talking about sexual lust but every kind of lust because all the lusts—whether they … Continue reading

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Avoid Anything that Causes You to Lust

The Bible is explicit about sexual sin (e.g., Lev. 18) but as I mentioned in my last blog, it doesn’t mention masturbation. This is important because many Christians struggling with lust focus too much on not masturbating rather than on … Continue reading

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Is Masturbation a Sin?

I’m going to post a few blogs on sexual temptation (I’ve already done one). What prompts me to do this is that in the last six weeks a young man asked me, “What do I do about feeling really ashamed?” … Continue reading

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Lust: Are We Willing to Do What It Takes?

Let me be frank—the large majority of Christian men, whether married or not, and many Christian women, whether married or not, are struggling with sexual lust. Many of these men and women feel defeated, dirty, guilty, and alone. And all … Continue reading

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